So, then there’s passion. We are often told to “follow our passion” in life, to do what speaks to us. We strive to have passion in our marriages. More often than not, we use the word passion to mean great, deeply felt emotion, sometimes romantic in nature.
If we look at the word “passion” in an etymological framework, we see that early definitions of passion had to do with suffering, pain, and enduring. I don’t remember the last time I heard anyone give the advice to follow pain and suffering. Nor do I remember it being a good thing to try to increase suffering in marriages and relationships.
So, what to do? Nothing, really. Keep using the word passion as it is in the modern sense. The definitions of words evolve and change. Maybe you can find something you are deeply interested in that won’t cause you a lot of suffering, or put you in a frame of mind where you have to merely endure it. Something that you care deeply about, and are still able to keep your sense about you.